QUOTE(Vega @ Jul 06, 03:59 PM)
Lately my life is not going good. I have about 1 true friend and no girlfriend and I just found out that half the parents of my other "friends" all think I'm gay or they just don't like me. Another thing is that I'm not gay and that just doesn't sit well with me that they think i'm gay. So I tried countering this by flirting with girls and for my efforts I got "You're just asking out girls that are out of you're league so you don't look gay." So right now I can't find a girl that I like that likes me back and a lot of girls don't find me attractive (i'm fat) so it makes it hard. Also I was just told that I dress like a gay guy and this is not really my fault, I'm not a big clothes shopper so usually I just take what my mom gives me and I don't really know what is good clothe sense I never really followed trends. Thanx for future help.
(I mean no offense to gay people I don't mind them at all)
Hang in there, Vega. I don't know how old you are, but I sense that you're still fairly young. This is good, because it means that you have your whole life ahead of you for doing just about anything you want. If I were a young man such as yourself, I'd forget about trying to please girls and instead focus on taking care of myself. If you are able to join a gym, this would be a great way to get in shape and to feel good about yourself along the way. I've always been amazed and envious of how quickly guys can get into shape compared with women. If you could start lifting weights every other day and doing aerobic activity (walking, running, biking) on alternate days, you'd lose that excess fat while gaining muscles in no time. If you can't join a gym, then walk/run and do push-ups and sit-ups. Also--Give up all the junk food and focus on healthy eating.
As for clothes, go to a local mall and observe what teens and young adults are wearing and buying at trendy shops such as American Eagle, Aeropostale, Abercrombie and Fitch, the Gap, etc. No, you don't have to spend big money in these stores, but just observe the styles that young people are interested in. Notice other details (hairstyles, shoes, hats, etc.) You can also go online to see the clothing lines at these stores. Wait for sales or go to Penneys or wherever you shop to purchase similar clothes. You don't have to spend a fortune, just get a few items that are in style and that you feel comfortable wearing.
Ditch the girls or other "friends" who are calling you gay. In the meantime, try to come up with a good comeback: "No,
I'm not gay, but maybe you're trying to project own homosexual inclinations onto me."
Beyond that, you could find an interest or hobby that you enjoy, or take classes to further your education. You'll find girls at the gym, girls at school, girls everywhere, but forget about them! Girls are fascinated with guys with lifestyles that function quite well without the requirement of girlfriends. (I know these things, because I am one.)
Good luck--I just know things are going to get better for you!