Mar 25, 2004, 07:18 AM
Started dating a lady in Feb. Valentines weekend. Things started off great, nothing to serious.
Well the last three weeks her excitement is no longer there when we talk on the phone. She does not call me unless it is to call me back. She is always tried and know gets off the phone after about 10-15 minutes. We used to talk for 2-3 hours.
We have only see each other in person once in the last three weeks and I had to surprise her at her place and it was only for 30 minutes (25 at her neighbors house) before heading off to meet her trainer. I asked her if we were ok or if she was waiting to see to break up. Her response was that we are just dating and she has no reason to break up with me.
We talked again on the phone that night. Discussed that if things need to go slow that was fine. We had a real good talk about things. She has admitted that she is doing some thinking about us specifically and dating/relationships in general.
She has had two failed engagements one her choice and the other mutual.
She has admitted that one night she could not get to sleep because she was thinking about me but it was nothing big; this was after spending the evening with a male friend that is engaged and was wanting advice on something to do for his girlfriend.
I have not heard from since last Monday night when I asked if she wanted to go to dinner this Wed. and she said she would get back with me. She made the comment once that she hated leaving people hanging.
I know she is busy, with a fashion show that is coming up the first weekend of April and she has always talked about how she hates stress.
Any suggestions, comments, please I have never had a woman act like this before.
Most have always wanted to spend as much time as possible phone or in person or they just end it someway or the other.
mid 30's not that it matters She is a few years older
Mar 31, 2004, 12:41 PM
I say distance yourself alittle. Dont call her for awhile and see what happens.... if you never hear from her then she wasn't worth your time. She seems like she is confused or maybe she is not returning your phone calls,etc. because she doesn't want to date you any longer. Sorry for sounding so harsh but women that distance themselves away usually don't want to be in existence with the person they are distancing themseves from... they just don't know how to tell that person how they feel.
It's the i'm to nice to hurt his feelings syndrome... women do it all the time... you just never have experienced.
I might be wrong and for your sake I hope I am.
It just kinda sounds that way to me... hope it all works out.
Apr 01, 2004, 07:30 AM
again, it sounds like ayana is right there. honesty is extremely important, even if its gonig to hurt feelings. She might just be cowardly, because like you said she "hates stress" (and everybody else just LOVES it...).
I'd stick with it till the end of the fashion show (maybe a week) and see if she calms down somewhat, and if not then don't wait around for her. She's not worth it.
Apr 01, 2004, 09:00 AM
Thanks for the input.
Update of what is happening. A week went buy and I gave her a call and left a message just saying I was calling to find out how she was. The next night she called and wow she was in a extremely better upbeat mood. We talked about that over the last two weeks I thought she seem down and she asked susprised sounding that I noticed that and that I was correct. She is a very upbeat person and she has been down and hated the last two weeks because of it. She mentioned that I would not have wanted to talk to her the day before because she cried all day long except the two hours she had to go to work. She also told me her plans for the coming weekend of watching a neighbors kid and staying home.
I had schedule to have a teddy bear and some balloons delivered the next day at her work. She called me that day and thanked me for them.
Apr 02, 2004, 10:20 AM
nice work romeo
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