I hate to have written that title for this, but I am constantly faced with the statement that the abuse was in the past, and it SHOULD remain there. I don't think many people who are not vicitms of abuse can understand how absolutely PRESENT our PAST abuse is.

Post Traumatic Stres Disorder, flashbacks, that is as real as the moment the abuse was taking place. So, it seems we can be trapped in an endless cycle of pain in our own minds. I really would like to end these images form resurfacing, but it never stops. Even in sleep, dreams are there, vivid, horrible dreams that ruin my day.

So, is it really in the past if it is effecting the present life SOOOO much? Isn't it just adding to the pain to have to explain this over and over to so many people who JUST wont leave me alone?

I am sorry if this is confusing, I have been quite confused lately...Does anyone have any similar experiences to sahre, thoughts, ideas...anything that could help me?
I appreciate you just reading this mess!

My love to all, Dara

a friend of mine once told me.... the past is the present the future your death, and you life is the same......

i didnt understand it then i still dont fully understand it now

I can't remember who said it, but I believe it to be true: "The past is prelude."  Just as the opera is summarized, synopsized, and the stage set by the prelude, just as the seeds are sown for the drama to follow, so it is with life itself, for drama in art is a reflection of drama in life.  The effects of abuse never go away.   If anybody tells you the effects of abuse go away, they are ignorant, mistaken, or tendentious; ask a survivor, ask Dara, ask me!  Sometimes we go on to have fascinating and productive lives, but the effects, nevertheless, never go away.  We never forget.  How could we?

Right on, We never forget, how could we? Words spoken as only a survivor could understand! I am so thankful for you, for people who get what it is like to live after abuse!
All my love, Dara