Mar 16, 2003, 02:18 AM
I'm going to start this message off with a problem I have specifically. Whenever something bad happens in my house, and there is a lot of stress, I end up going outside and either punching or kicking the hell out of a door. I know that this is not the right way of handling stress but when I am pushed to that point I would rather hit an inatimate object than a person, and my mind is just wanting to get that adreniline out of body so I go hit something. I have cuts on my knukles fro punching the door so hard.
Now the bad part..........
Whenever my family gets super stressed, almost always my lil' brother causes it, we end up in this huge fight and putting people on the verge of dying. My dad gets really close to having a heart attack, my step-mom has lupos and is pushed to a panic attack, and the rest of us are left in the middle. We have tried everything. Whenever he gets out of hand, which is at least 3 times a week, we end up having this huge fight, and we have had the police involved many times before. Yesterday, we had one of these outbreaks. John (my lil' brother) wasw throwing knives around my 5-year-old niece, and one of them hit Adam's (one of my older brothers) foot. Well Adam went after John and my dad came in and seperated them. Well Kimberly, (my niece) saw the whole thing, and told my step-mom. Well, Linda (my step-mom) was fed up with John so we all, daddy, Linda, Adam, Kimberly, and I, went to the Police station, and the police refused to do anything! They said well we aren't going to send anymore cops down there anymore! My dad raised his voice in there saying well the cops won't do anything what the hell are we supposed to do?!?! And the cop had the *ucking nerve to say, Hey! You lower your voice or I'll throw you in a cell! So he went outside. The cop continued going on about how if this happens give him licks (a spanking) or to have Adam beat the hell out of him. A cop said that! Anyway please help!
Mar 16, 2003, 04:11 AM
It sounds like there is a lot of anger and frustration in your family. You stated that you will punch walls to release the adrenaline, and thai IS better than punching a person! How about physical activity or ecercise? Bike rididn, basketball, running, rolerblading...anything like that can be more positive way to deal with the stress. I tell you from experience of punching walls and doors, that running is MUCH more gratifying!
As for you family, it sounds very complicated! Family therapy might help, but I do worry about your brother who throws knives. That is quite dangerous. And then the whole family gets upset and things spiral out of control. Anger, yelling, fighting, hitting etc...these are not effective ways of communication or expression. I wish I could help you, I feel very bad for the situation you are in with your family. Please consider joining a support group, going into therapy( am in therapy too), or even family therapy!
Please keep me informed!
Mar 18, 2003, 05:56 AM
oh wow.. i almost dont know wat to sy because i dont want you to get mad at me. and i dont wnat to make tihngsd worse for you.. but.. kjeez.. you guys need to talk to someone.. and the cops.. fuckin a they must be stupid as fuckin hell right? punching stuff... dang i mean its good you dont hit people but.. walls and stuff can be dangerous.. you really shouldnt... and you ghuuys need to talk to people together.. jus like dara said.. fanmily therapy would be good.. tell me what happenes.. ROoze*
Mar 18, 2003, 07:20 AM
I am not gonna get mad at you for advice. LoL. Ms. Joy, a friend of ours is supposed to get us some help, but hey we aren't rich, LoL. I've tried running and pillows and what-not, but I don't really get energy in my legs as much as my wrists. Plus, usually it gets out of hand at night and I am scared to go outside by myself in the dark, and I would not expect someone to come with me. LoL. Anyway, Roze did you flunk keyboarding? LoL. J/K
Mar 19, 2003, 05:56 AM
lol oh yea! no actulally i got A lol right i tihnk i gotta d but yea lol.. i just never type right if i dont have to.. see look im doing pretty good huh?? but yea. lol. thas good that you guys can get help and some counslers actualy do it for no money, or famly frends ya know? wher is it you live?? ROoze*
Mar 28, 2003, 05:36 AM
Well, I have an announcement!!!!!!!!! John is in Willuby (a juvinile detention center) and we just went to court to have him put in. Apparently the judge doesn't like him because he mouthed off to him 8 years ago and hasnt liked him since. Judge Ammerman put him in for 10 working days and he will be tried again in 10 days. John smarted off again in court today and the judge isn't to pleased with him. The juvinile person picked him up yesterday. So we'll see for now. The reason he is in *hit now is because he cought a matress on fire!!!!!!!!!!! The police didn't do anything so we talked to the judge tthe next day and then he was picked up that afternoon after being suspended from school for threstining to kill a teacher! Anyways!!!!!! We are going to have a counselour come to the house once a week and help us out for free. Thanx for ur help mind-brain!!!!!!
Mar 28, 2003, 06:12 AM
oh im so happy for you!!! thas really good!!!! i hope you all get better ok??? ROoZE*
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