Ok how many of you here agree words can hurt just as much as being punched in the face? ??? I was in an abusive relstionship and there were times I wished my guy would have punched me in the face instead of saying some of the things he said! I thought I should post a thread to let you all no no abuse is acceptable but many times in a relationship emotional and or mental abuse are overlooked because most of the times victims are quiet about their abusers and we tend to push alot of the hurt down. We have no physical bruising or scars but deep within we are battered sometimes beyond repair! I know this all well because I was a victim of all forms of abuse. ??? :'( I twas my first long relationship I was in and I stayed thinking thisw as my only chance at true happiness I was gravely wrong! :'( There are signs to look for if you are being abused. First you need to know it is never your fault I had the sh*t kicked out of my self esteem destroyung my values beliefs and who I was I didn't care I only wanted love and I was winllin got do anything to get it but now I learned the hard way! I learned I am worthy of love! and I don't deserve to be treated as I was being treated so without further adue I hope I can offer some light onto this dark subject of cruelty! :'(
Everyone is deserves to be loved and not robbed of self worth dignity or self respect.
If a guy acts like this BEWARE! he is not a real MAN!
tries to keep you isolated thinks you only belong to him
wants you all to himself doesn't want you visiting family or friends! Robs you of your life threatens you if you want to go somewhere. Makes you feel like a child you feel you need to ask his permission or his approval.....
First noone should ever keep yu isolated and away from family and friends bein in a relationship should be a part of your life but not your whole life You SHOULD be given room to be your own person and to do the things you enjoy and be with friends and family!
Here's a line
If you leave don't EVER bother coming back! or
what are you doing talking to that "other" guy you belong to me!
or why are you spending so much time with your friends
Hell no......last I checked there was no leash hooked to your neck!
Being made to feel stupid, not supportive of dreams desires and goals wants things his way and his way alone! Being made to feel guillty
"if you don't start buckling down in college you will end up being stupid and working at Mickey D's all your life"
or if you wern't going to school we wouldn't be having all this trouble..... ???
This is NOT motivation no matter what he may say!
and if a guy grabs your arm and pulls you backwards
or throws you up against the wall while you are on crutches because your zipper on your jacket got stuck!! It is time to get out!!!
If a guy leaves you home for hours at a time with no food in the house.......get out it's not worth it
If a guy who is close to you sexually assualts you and your boyfriend says it's your fault....LEAVE!!! Please
A relationship is not one sided and you should not be the one making all the sacrafices if a guy expects you to pay all his bills time to pack your bags and move on
LOVE is a two way street both sides should be making sacrafices. and um you can't buy love with a check book!
It is not Give Give so he can TAKE TAKE only to give nothing back :-/
These were real examples used from a "real" relationship These facts are true and I am a survivor!! :'(