My brother died of a heroin overdose over 5 weeks ago. There has still not been a funeral. My bitch of a sister is doing all she can to drive a wedge through the grievers, splitting us into the people who know she's a bitch, and the people who can be manipulated by her. All of this just to get some kind of revenge and to take over a funeral which she cant afford.

I wrote this in anger. The address is something my brother used to say to her to wind her up.
http://suzzannebewareofthedevil.blogspot.com/


/VentOff

This is not the time to be angry and your relatives, this is the time to remember your brother and to forget about your sister, for now.

Do you really want to remember his funeral as the day you got into some big battle with your sister? Focus on what is most important, remembering those who have died.

I'm afraid thats all we want to do Max. She has taken away the funeral from the family, despite several efforts to reconcile and compromise, because she feels she should do it. She's stopping my mother from grieving and giving her undue stress for no reason other than spite. We've tried to talk sensibly to both her and his son, and she has twisted him into her puppet. The funeral will be huge and against his wishes, he was scared of the dark and didn't want to be buried - he told his partner and my mam that fact. They're doing what they want in total disrespect of his wishes.

Just look at the last few messages, thats the second eldest brother, his partner, and me:
http://tomma.gonetoosoon.co.uk/my_index.php
Its all we can do to keep my mother from breaking down completely.

The funeral will be all bells and whistles, again against his wishes, and none of the people who really loved him will be there. Its just sad and there's no need for it. The stupid thing is the whole thing about buried or cremated is a moot point because they will be trying to get a grant to bury him, but the UK doesn't give grants for anything but a cremation. So all thats left is pure spite.

We're resolved to have our own ceremony like he wanted, burning his belongings and scattering his ashes exactly as he wished. But the hate for my sister has been burning for fifteen years now, and forgiveness has come and gone over twenty times, the times passed for that now.

Well sometimes you need to take matters into your own hands.

I wish you all the best and hope things work out for you.

Well i just found out they've moved the funeral another funeral parlour, the third now, and they are doing a cremation because the government pays for it. They haven't told us that, we found out because a lot of officials know our plight, so its unlikely we'll be going. But it just highlights the lunacy of the situation and the malice behind it all. All of it has been unnecessary in the end, its just been a vehicle for my sisters retaliation. Its exactly like a catching a thief, they don't just admit to the crime, they attack you. They're too dumb to recognise their own emotions to even begin to apologise and try and put things right in time for the funeral, so we'll still be having a private unofficial send off.