I have not posted in here before, but i'm a bit pissed and i've just learnt that Ali and I have to move out of our apartment.

It's a weird thing, I've never been asked to leave a place before now, rather it has been my choice when to leave. However this time I do not have control, this time i do not have a say in where I live.

We really like the place we're in and are struggling to come to terms with the reasons why we've been asked to leave. No reason has been given, just a notice of possesion put through the door, and no other explanation provided.

This would seem to be a reasonable way to do things if the landlady lived thousands of miles away, but she lives beneath us! She didn't feel that she could say this to us in person, and that's what really bothers me.

So i find myself searching my soul for reasons why i was a bad tennent and desrve to be kicked out. Searching my feelings i find that i don;t think we deserve this, we are not bad people, so it must be some problem that she has that we don't know about.

It comes down to this for me, either Jo the landlady is selling up and moving on, or she really has a problem with us. Given what i know about her, the later seems to be the more likely position.

I think she has a problem with Ali and I and can't handle living beneath us for whatever reason. She has never warmed to us and has dealt with our situation in a confusing paradox of trust/mistrust, opening up to us/saying nothing at all. It was only last week she invited us to her damn Birthday party in April, and only a month since she asked us if we wanted to stay for another year.

One thing is for sure, where ever I end up, i will not live inthe same building as the owner again.

I know that i should approach her and find out what this is about, but at the same time, do i really care? Because of the history we have, I don't think i can talk with her about this, it's silly isn't it, but there you go. Theres nothing i can do to change what has happened.

All this from a maternity nurse! Who would have thought they could have such poor people skills, such that they do not know how to talk with people.

I'm sorry to hear about that, Laz, but I'm sure some good will come of it. What exactly that good will be is largely up to you. I would suggest, however, that you should talk face-to-face with your landlady to find out the reasons behind her actions. Boldness and assertiveness tend to bring more good than bad, and so you shouldn't hesitate about confronting her, unless there are other details to consider.

Do you think you were a bad tenant in any way?

Thanks Shawn,

You know, I really don't think that we were bad tenants, but then by her standards maybe we were.

Free of alcohol this morning, I can see the situation more clearly. I feel that asking for any reason from her will be pointless, it's not important to know and i'm comfortable with not knowing. I think I would only want to know so that I could rage at her for the way she has handled this!

Jo has made her mind up, put the legal wheels in motion, and there's nothing I can do to change this, and that's what i'd really like to do! So we'll go quietly and happy, the love I have for Ali will keep me going