I have this freind, who goes to school ith me and his name is cory. if anyone from MY school os one this site and read this, you had better not say anything to him or i will kick ur a*s, i will kick ur a*s and then kill you. We have been best friends since i was born, my mom baysat him his mom babysat me. sort of. she isnt really that great of a mom. Ok i am now 16 years old, so we have been friends for over 16 years. everyone in his family including his mom and dad an his three brothers all make fun of him, "Cory your gay, cory stop your girly tendancies before you ARE gay" and it pisses me off SO fuckin much, i just wish they would all die bcuz they are so rude. everyone at school is the same way just becasue he is more friends with girls then the guys. the guys in gradschool wouldnt have anything to do with im bcuz he was small so he hung with the girls. when he did that they called him gay. he just told me two days ago. he is gay. i never would have belived it if it had come from anyone other than himself. i dont care that he is gay, but it confuses me. he knows its wrong bcuz we are both christians and he is a srong one. in our religion its wrong and he knows it. i dont care, and yet im confused. i dont know how to act, what makes them that way. i just wish i knew what to say to him. i odnt know what i want out of this but i geuss i just needed to write.
ROze

He is your friend. He has been your friend all his life, so be his friend. Don't worry about what to say, just love him.

As a Christian, we all do things we shouldn't. We try our best to change, and still we fail. Eventually, we will come to realize that the only one we need in our lives is God, but until then we will keep searching after things we think will fulfill us on earth.

Jesus Christ asked us to love each other, so just love him. He probably needs that more than ever, especially if it is difficult for him at school. You don't have to agree with his choice or tell him it's right. You can tell him that you love and respect him but that you don't believe his choice is right - no nagging.

Remember that Christ said one other thing, before you point out the splinter in your friend's eye, be sure and remove the beam from your own. In essence, we should first look in the mirror at ourselves to make sure we are righteous before we go about trying to condemn/judge others.

Let me ask you one more thing...what would you do if the roles were reversed? How would you want him to treat you?

Just love him, he is your friend.

thank you, thank you so much and thats waht i do, at least what i try to do. he has told my other rend dawnita that he has a guy he likes, only that guy isnt gay and so he is kinda down about that i geuss. i love him and he knows it, i geuss i just wanted to talk about it bcuz iw anted supose to tell anyone thankx for listein tho.

Roze, you wrote:
"he knows its wrong bcuz we are both christians and he is a srong one. in our religion its wrong and he knows it. i dont care, and yet im confused. i dont know how to act, what makes them that way. i just wish i knew what to say to him"

Being of a religion that considers you worng in your way of life must be terribly difficult for your friend. This is why I have difficulties with religion. I respect all religions and everyone is entitled to their beliefs. Just as your friend is entitled to being himself, which happens to be a gay man. Just be yourself, be his friend as you have always been, Dont worry about what you should or shold not do, be yourself! That is the best you can be!

I have a friend, actually, she is my best friend for over 12 years now. SHe is a lesbian, and when we met I didnt know. I admit I was a teenager who was not open minded to people who were gay, and if I knew she was gay I most likely would have not become her friend.

The best gift I have learned form my friend is that she is just like me! She has likes and dislikes, she is a worthy human being and she is one of the best people I have ever known! She has opened my heart and mind to all people, I am no longer afraid of soemoen who is gay as I was in high school. That just makes my heart smile! And I have come across MANY people who will find out she is gay and ask me why I am friends with her, or worry that she will make me gay(really, people actually think that is possible!). Those are the people who I can do without in my life...Do what your heart tells you is the right thing. You wont go wrong!

Hope my experience has helped you a bit!

All my love,
Dara

ya it has.. and im not going to be mean to him or tatally like hate him, bcuzi understand. sorta, but i dont care is the tihing.. ya and he has to know tis wrong but that would make it even harder. but today he fouind out tyhere is another kid who is gay in our school andhe is going to talk to him.. im happy for him.. i really am
Roze