What do you do when you have so much overload your like ripping at the seams??

If there was a scale for stress... 1 being im as peaceful as if i was in heaven and 10 being i wish i were dead and im having a nervous break down.... I would be about a 9.99(repeating)...

There's so much to do and no time at all... Its like I try my best but do my worest.... and I'm starting to fall apart...

You strive perfect you get a mess.... so you strive again and get results worest than before untill it beats you to the ground..... I have one hit of the hammer befor im nailed to the floor....

I hate to ask, I always have, I always will.... Help....

hi Anne,

sometimes it helps to become a little detached from our actions. For example, there have been occasions when I'm running several miles that I become seemingly completely detached from my actions, and all my running seems effortless, or rather, that I'm merely watching the experience (or having the experience) effortlessly. Maybe you could call this a 'flow' experience, but the only reason I bring it up at all is because of the contrast. Namely, one minute I feel as if I'm expending great effort, and then the next, everything is effortless and I become seemingly completely detached from my actions, though fully cognizant of them, a disembodiment of sorts. Interesting.

As much as you probably don't want to hear this, your stress is all in your head. If you regard stress as mere illusion, as non-existent, then it will become so. That is, you need to understand that you're creating this sense of stress, and then try different ways to alter your mindstate so that it's non-existent. I'm not advocating a denial or repression of your responsibilities or what you want to do, but rather am advocating that you try to exercise better control over how you react to things. The sense of stress is only real if we validate it and recognize it as real. If we refuse to validate it or recognize it as real, then it ceases to exist, or in any event, it ceases to effect us.

Also, sometimes we have the impression that we must do something because of external factors (like because someone else wants us to), then oftentimes it will be unpleasant to do the task. However, if we rely on internal motivation, then we regard what we do much more pleasantly. Thus, one 'trick' is to regard everything you do as 'internally motivated', which requires you to find some internal motivation for doing whatever it is you're stressed out about doing.

And finally, as trite as it sounds, you must become the calm in the center of the storm.

Don't listen to Shawn. I am convinced he has zoloft running through his veins or something

What you need is a break. Delegate some of your work to others, take a holiday, get outside and enjoy the autumn air. Do whatever it takes to get some time alone to recharge. You will be much better off for it.

Take care.

And let go of your need for perfection. I am guilty of this myself, but sometimes you just have to settle for having everything done "good enough" so that it can all be attended to.

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Don't listen to Shawn. I am convinced he has zoloft running through his veins or something [/quote]

no, not zoloft..... the word is "insouciant"

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Thanks.... I think