its not like im trying to make people all jusm onto my problems and help me. bcuz that is the last thing i want to do. but i tried it once.. throwing up after i ate.. for like two weeks.. well then i kinda stopped bcuz it seemes i was getting no where.. but i foiund out i lost a few ounds i was so happy.. i am tihnkgin about trying it again. but staying with it this time... i know tha i shouldnt and i know its wrong but i dont know any other way to deal with myself.. im really sorry for all; taing up this space with THIS kind of a question but.. i just need help... Roze :-[

Please, no need to be sorry. Yours are exactly the types of questions that we need here. It gets people thinking, gets people involved, and helps us all out!

I willgive you my advice, and you can do with it what you please, ok?
I am not the preachy or lecturing type, so all I can offer is my opinion!

If you are not in a cycle of obsessiong over the eating/vomiting, I suggest you try VERY hard to stay away form doing that. If you feel guilty and need to do SOMETHING to ease that guilt, how about exercise? I know Shawn brought that up in s different  post, and it really is a good idea. Exercise is healthy, for the most part! And you can control your weight that way.
Eating disorders can start off just that you are restricting or throwing up occasionally, but you will be AMAZED how quickly it can take over. Once that happens, life gets MUCH WORSE, problems double and tripple.

I hope you can find other ways to work out your desire to lose weight, or just to ease that feeling you get about eating...

Please let me know what you think!

Love, Dara

it works for me.. lol. i neve get time alone to do that tho and i dont wanan do it in front of my brotehrs frends.. bcuz sum of them are my age or older.. (hes a lil pimp) and its like embaresing!!!! lol i no i shouldnt be all dumb.. and i know maybe that i dont have a prblem..but im scared.. ya no? Roze

Yes, I know! It does work, and it is managable for a short time. Then it takes over and you are no longer in control of yourslef. Sounds odd because YOU are doing it, but honestly it gets so out of control! It is like any addiction, any eating disorder is like an addiction.

Just be careful, ok? I care about you and I would hate to see you hurting even more!

Love, Dara

thanx.. lol .. Roze :-*

Yes Rose you are special around here!!!!!

Roze,

I have some very strong opinions about this particular issue.

I've been an ana/mia victim for 33 years (since the age of 14).  Yes, 33 years is a very long time to suffer from an ED and still be alive to talk about it.  I honestly believe that I owe my continuing existence to one factor:  I've never, ever made myself throw up.  Sure, I often and regularly purge, in other ways, but I don't induce vomiting.  That's the one line that I've refused to cross.

First, repeated vomiting is extremely devastating to the body, even in the short-term.  

Second, most people who cross that line quickly become addicted.  If you can get past the disgust and unpleasantness of performing that act, even once, you know you can do so again and again.  It becomes way too easy to rely on this "quick fix" to dieting.

Third, once the habit has been developed, it has a good chance of sending you down an agonizing but slippery slope to your death.

There are many other ways for you to help yourself.  I beg you -- a bright, shining star in our lives -- not to choose this one.

Love,
Lori