[color=Purple][/color] ok i have been in a relationship for 2 months but im scared to give my b/f my whole heart b/c the last time i did the guy broke my heart and i cried for 6 months but i dunno what to do i wanna love him but im scared and he says its ok well just take it slow but i thought i wasnt scared ne more but i guess i am so if u have ne ideas of calmin me down let me know ??? ???

well first.. wat do you mean by give him ur whole heart? like have sex? bcuz you shouldnt do that, i mnea i dont know how old you are or anything but it would not really be a good idea to have sex bcuz i mean only two months is not very long, and sex can be a big step. if you just mean trusting him and everything, trust him, hes a boyfrend, and if he dumps you then he isnt worth shit, bcuz you sound like a really good person and from wat you say about him, he WONT dump you. Roze hope i helped.. keep me posted!

i take it ur name is roze ? well hi im Micah i am almost 15 i will be in 7 days i mean trusting him not sex that can wait till we mariied um he is hes great i am just terrified of getting hurt again


Micah

yea lol. my name is roze.. yea i figured it was opry the trust thing but i just had to ask.. well so ur almost 15?well im 15 too lol and i KNOw belive me i know how hard it is to trust someone.. but he sounds like a great guy and someone that nice and shit couldnt be rude about it.. i mnea yea two months is a longtime to go without trusting someone and i figure that soon you should pry trust him ya know? i mean wta ecstaly do you mean by truist, like wthi ur life, or ur love?Roze

Micah,

welcome to the site girl! I hope you like it Roze is a great girl I hope you two can become friends!! I cam understadnyour fear of not wating to get hurt again...I am 23 and I still battle with that fear! I am terribly sorry you were hurt by men in the past but you must realize not all men are like that but since you are young take it slow go out togetherwith friends until you feel you can trust him more openly with all of your heart! Get to know him and then take it from there! Share little pieces about yourself first...and when you find you can trust him more you will be able to open up more with him! You are young have fun noone says you will marry this guy but I realize you feel this is love now so enjoy this feeling and don't have very hogh expectations because that can leave you open to being hurt more easily be cautious yet mnot too cautious! You seem like a wonderful person...I am so glad you joined us here if I can help in any way please let me know I hope I have helped here Listen to Rooze's advice about sex She understands and is very wise for you both are around the same age! I am sure she deal with some of the same insecurities as you do....... Good luck!

Love always,
Chrissy

Thanks Rooze for being there for Micah and trying to help here! You have alot of wisdom to offer here since you two are around the same age!

Two years is not very long to be in a relationship You both should be trying to get to know one another and I can understand not being able to trust at 2 months...it takes time especially if you have been hurt in the past but Good luck! Keep posting and let us know how things go...

Love always,
Chrissy

giving your heart is hard but if you feel that you love him and you KNOW  that he loves you its allmost like haven and that is the point of time to let your heart fly

roze just for future reference plz dont cuss and thx all u guys my last and thx god ex b/f cheated on me then started hittin me and yeah me and zach have been together for 2 months we met online and cool enough we lived by eachother so i have been over there and him here he is also almost 15 we are about 1 month apart so thx guys ttyl

Micah

yea sure sorry! i dont mean to but.. it.. lol srry i wont anymore.. but thanx crissy.. and.. yea i mnea.. just try.. if he loves you.. and you love him.. talk about it.. oh hun i am so sorry about ur last bf taht would suck sooo bad.. did you tell anyone? like the police or anything? theere is an abuse site on here.. and ou coul post there.. they help alot too.. Roze

no i didnt tell ne1 cuz at the time i still liked him and yeah he did it in like aug of 2002 so yeah we dont speak to eachother no more but we ride the same bus i did tlkto zach and we have been tlkin bout it he says he understands but after tlkin to u guys i relized and i told him that im done bein scared cuz i have nuthin to be scared of he treats me like a princess and he wont hurt me i know he wont thx a ton and my im address is zachmicahlove if u wanna im me ttyl

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haha the curses thing huh?? lol well.. i tihnk that you should tell someone about wat happened bcuz hitting you and stuff is not a good tihng and its illegal and you SHOULD do something about it.. ROze

roze i cant do nething its over its the past

well ok.. but.. sorry just trying to help

well im just scared of what he'll do u know like i mean i live by him and how would i do that? ??? ??? ??? ???

well if you tell someon and he gets arrested then you wont have to worry about hijm comeing after you, you can get a restraning order agasint him and if he comes near you he can go back in jail, and pay a fine, i mean he couldt hurt you anymore.. wat all did he do? i mean only if you feel comforabel telling me, if you dont want to th3en its ok. Roze

nuthin really he just hit me sometimes after we broke up i mean nuthin bad like it was just once i mean but i had 21 brusis at the time from him and it would be his word against mine

21 bruises is a heck of a lot at one time. at any time acutally. and even if it was ur word agasint his people would have had to have seen your bruises at one time or another and jury's and stuff tend to belive the girls.. did you every right in a journal or diaray about it? ROze

well not really b/c it was on my stomach and stuff so they really didnt and i dont think i wrote nething down but i can look

well.. still.. im glad you can loook!! bcuz if you can get him in trouble DO TI! ROoze

to me, love is a very powerful thing and can bring many emotions. it can bring joy, happiness,sadness, or anger
...esc.. but when things get bad, i know you might now feel like giving your love to anyone because thats normal. but this guy that you are with dezerves a chace, after all he didnt hurt you in the first place. if you get hurt, get up and try again. until one day you will find the one... dont be scared. i am still trying to find someone..
email me, i would like to be your friend...
stephylovescruz@aol.com

i felt the same way when i got in my relationship w/whos now my fiance..id ben in alot of bad relationships n even 1 abusive one which even after bein w/my fiance 4 3 1/2 yrs i still think bout that abuse from my past and it scares me 2..now dion(fiance) would never hurt me,i still get scared he'll leave me when we argue sumtimes.unfortunately its just not that easy to let go of ur past..but do ur best to trust him n it will get easy as each day goes on.

jen