Ok I am still working on the getting my old boyfriend back, but I am not as worried about that. What I am worried about is that there is this guy that lives near me, but goes to another school. See he is starting to really scare me I meet him almost 3 years ago at a church camp. We have only ever been friends and that is all I would ever want to be with him and I only talk to him once or twice every few months. So when he called a couple of weeks ago I didn't really think anything of it I just thought that he wanted to get the group of us together that live close that went to church camp together. Well no that wasn't it at all turns out he had broken up with his girlfriend, for me!! And well now no matter where I go he is there, when I get home he is right behind me, when he isnt around he is calling me. When he isn't there right behind me when I get home he is there shortly after so I have to part my car in the garage and not turn on anything in the house so he wont think I am home then if he calls and I pick up when my parents arent home he comes over agin. He is starting to really scare me he is very well none for his bad temper and hitting girls I want him to go away, but I dont want to do it in a way that will make him mad enough to hurt me. Well if you have anything to say that might help me thank you a lot... :-[

                                Love ya,
                                Stacy

Stacy, sweetie, it sounds like you've got a creepy stalker on your hands.  I think you should call the police and explain the entire situation to them, just as you have to me. Don't call 911, call the regular non-emergency number.  So explain everything to them and make a complaint, file a report; tell them you fear for your safety.  Then, after that, the next time he shows up, call the police immediately.  Also, IF it is legal where you live (and be sure you find out FIRST), get a can of mace or pepper spray, and keep it in your purse.  Then if he gets too close and you have no way of escape, after you have given him a firm and clear verbal warning, give it to him right in the eyes and run like Hell.  But first things first: call the police, make a complaint, file a report.  Silke suffers endlessly because of a creepy stalker in Germany, where the laws are ridiculous and/or nonexistent in this area; you at least have the advantage of not living in Germany!  Good luck and God bless you; I take this matter extremely seriously, and I know the police will too.  MAKE them take it seriously, by being polite but firm in making your complaint and filing your report.  Let me know how it goes.  I'm on your side all the way; I have a beautiful daughter just about your age.    

    Steven, well I hope your daughter will NEVER have to put up with anything like this it is a pain. I don't even know if I had done anything to "lead" him on or anything I mean I naver talk to the poor boy hardly ever. All in all its just been one of those things that have made me question God and how he would let anyone go through it. I truly hope that your Silke wont always have to put up with it and that she gets better soon. And thank you so much for just listening and taking the time to halp me with things when you don't have to...

                         Love ya,
                         Stacy...

Oh, but I DO have to, and I want to!  Anyone who asks me for my help is entitled to my best.  Please do call the police.  You don't have to put up with this.  Stop him before it escalates into something truly dangerous.  I want you to be safe and happy and enjoy your life, and not have to worry about some perverted loser!  Yuck!

    Well, I know I probably should tell the police, but I think I am going to give him a choice. Leave me alone and go about his life and never talk to me agian or keep it up and add something to his record. I havent heard from him though in a few days so I am taking that as a good thing. I just hope it keeps up!

                              Love ya,
                              Stacy...