I broke up with this guy I have been dating for the past months. I had a good reason one was that I didnt think it was fair to lead him on if I didnt feel the same way for him that he felt for me. Now two weeks after I have broken up with him and I feel awful, I am sorry I ever broke up with him. I want him back he was the best guy that has ever been in my life. Now here is the question. How do I get him to listen to me and tell him how I deel if he wont even look at me? And the reason I am to "chicken" to talk to him though is because I am afriad of getting rejected I know that is just a part of it and that I need to talk to him and I would feel better if I did, but I dont know what to say or how to get him to listen. Well if you can help me any at all or will I would be very thankful for that.
     
                        Love ya,
                        Stacy...

well.. ive never really had to deal with this.. but i think you could maybe write him a letter if you are to cared to talk to him in person.. or if he wont listen to you.. i mean lol im sorry im trying... you sound like a really nice person and if he cant see that then its his problem.. i mean how old are you anyways? cuz ur not like gonna marry him rite? cuz if not.. then ya no? i mean.. well.. if you really like him.. write a letter that is how i talk to people becasue some people just cant talk lol ya no.. i hope i helped tho i dont think i did.. luv ya Roze :-* :-*

    Roze- lol well it doesnt matter if you can help everyone or not its that you tried that should mean something. and I know no one can tell me what to do or what to say word for word I just want some ideas sort of I guess. And I am only 17, heck no I am not going to marry him not right now not by any means (lol, I say this now one day it will catch up with me). But no he is just a really good boyfeind for right now and i care about him a lot.
                       
                     Love ya,
                     Stacy

ok lol im sorry if you tihnk he is good for you rite now.. GO FOR IT! love ya roze

Stacy!  Did you see my reply to your question before it disappeared?  I hope so!  What happened is that we outgrew our old server and had to change over to a new one, so that we can now have unlimited bandwidth; we didn't have enough on the old server.  But in the transition from the old to the new, some posts were lost, including my reply (which was really long and detailed, and into which I put a great deal of thought, and typing!) and a couple of my new poems.  So I am painstakingly going through and trying to reconstruct what was lost into the ether of cyberspace during that twilight time between servers.  What I said--and I don't think I can say it again as well as I did the first time, so I apologize--was to propose that you make a card, from scratch, and write an original poem on the inside explaining how you feel.  If you don't feel confident enough to draw your own card from scratch, you could either do it on the computer (not as immediate, but OK) or find a really cool blank card to serve as the vehicle for your poem.  The immediacy of a poem which you have written, and written in your own hand in a card of your own design, is powerful.  I have all sorts of wonderful cards and letters from my sweet Silke, drawn in her beautifully calligraphic handwriting, and I will treasure them forever.  Even if you make a card on the computer, I would recommend that you write the poem in your own hand.  There's something about a letter from a woman in her own writing which is terribly effective to a man.  And we know that you are a wonderful poet, so an original poem in your own hand would present a very compelling case indeed.  Then you can slip the card in his locker at school, or even hand it to him in person, depending on the state of your communication.  "It is a woman's prerogative to change her mind," the old saying goes; actually it's ANYONE'S prerogative to change their mind, and it's no disgrace to just tell him that, after he was out of your life, you missed him, and felt that you had made a mistake.  Admitting a mistake is also very compelling.  This reply is not nearly as good as my original, but you get the idea.  An original card, containing an original poem.  If the locker option seems good to you, that would be nice.  I have loved to get beautiful communications from ladies in my locker.  Yowza!  When you're trudging through the halls, going to class, and open your locker and there's an original card with an original poem in it from a lady, that's really something!  It sure beats being confronted with the usual Geometry and Bio textbooks!  See what you think, Stacy.  I hope this helps.  I think you can get him back quite easily this way.  His male ego is bruised right now, but he will feel much better if you just tell him the truth.  And this would be a good way to do it.  I send you all my love, respect, and solidarity, and I wish you every happiness and every success.  Please let me know how it goes!

Stacy,

Do you and he have any mutual friends who are trustworthy and compassionate?  If so, you can explain your feelings to one such person, and ask that individual to relay them to your ex-boyfriend.  A sincere mediator can bridge the gap between two people who, for whatever reasons, aren't communicating.  

If you like this idea, please make sure you confide in someone who's mature, has your best interests at heart, and won't gossip.  Your member profile says that you're 17 years old, and I remember, all too well, that high school culture can be very cruel at times.

I really hope this all works out for you.  Good luck with everything!

    Well, thank you all those are some great ideas! Steven, no I didn't get your message the first time, but thanks for trying to tell me agin and leting me know what happened. I thought I had done something wrong or forgot to do something so it just never save or something. And even though I didnt get your note till today I had sort of thought about doing something like that. I am just working on the poem part now...and when I could give it to him. I am trying though and I am not sure how the poem will turn out so I might show you guys before I even try to show him.

                            Love ya,
                            Stacy...

The minute I saw your post I replied, but it was not available for you to view, I guess, because of the server problem.  I think it's great that we were thinking along the same lines.  I hope it works out well; I really believe that it will.  I'm sure we'd love to see the poem anytime at all.  It would be fun to be in on the plan!  ;)

    Well, I am sure you will be in on the plan. It is kind of cool that we were kind of thinking along the same lines. :-*

                   Love ya,
                   Stacy...

             

I think it's kinda cool too.  You're so sweet.  If that guy has any sense at all, he'll come back a-runnin'.  I know I would!   :-*

    I am not sure how sweet I am, but I am glad people thing I am. And glad to know someone would come back a-runnin'.  ;)

                  Love ya,
                  Stacy...

    STEVEN!!!!! guess what! guess what! Sorry...but I am in a great mood right now I just got done talking to my x boyfriend and I told him how I felt and everything and everthing is back to the norm with us. I never got a chance to do the card though...I will save that for sometime when I really screw up .

                       Love ya,
                       Stacy...

Oh Stacy, sweetheart, that's so wonderful!  I'm really happy about that!  An honest-to-goodness happy ending; maybe it can make up for my own daughter's troubles with HER realationship, which has turned out to be so disappointing.  My own relationship is absolutely heavenly, I am so happy to be able to say, and I am so happy for you now, too.  Well, at least there are two of us in this twittering world who are happy in love!  Hooray for us, and I hope and wish for everyone else all the happiness and all the love in the world.  Remember to be very careful with that guy who seems so obsessed with you, Stacy; it worries me, especially when you say that he has a history of hitting girls.  Call the police at the first sign of him, and have your boyfriend keep an eye on him as well.  You just don't need creepy weirdos in your life; nobody does.  So never let him guilt-trip you, OK?  You haven't done anything to "lead him on."  He's just a pervert.  Be happy, have a great time with you restored relationship--congratulations, with all my heart!--and remember to let the police protect you from the pervert guy.  Be careful out there, sweetie; life is fragile and short, and I want yours to be wonderful.  You deserve it!   :-*  

    Steven, I myself and saying hooray for me and that is not something I say very often and I am so happy for as well with you love. And while me and Jacob were talking today and fixing everything he was saying how much he missed me and he is about 3 years older then me so he is already doing the college thing, but he was saying how when I finished shool this year he wanted to purpose to me. And just went on and on about everything he wants us to do, and well that is what scared me when I broke up with him, but it doesnt sound that bad anymore after I thought about what it would be like with out him. I care for him more then I ever thought I would, and the feeling gets stronger everyday. He is the first guy I have ever felt this way about and the first one to last longer the 4 weeks. We have been together now for 4 years now, and this is the forst time I have ever really thought about how long we have been together. I never want to loose him it would hurt me to much. And to think I use to be the one out of my friends that said you must not know what you want if you fall in love this soon in life.  :-*

                          Love ya,
                          Stacy...