Mothers ugg... Well once again I have a mother problem not only does she want me to do something I have tried and just didnt not like but she is trying to tell me who to date and who not to date. The guy I am dataing i have been dating for a while now and i suppose it has just now sank in how much older them me he is i suppose because she doesnt think it would be a good idea to date someone more then a year older them me she has none this guy ever sense he was little she knows his parents ans has told me how much she likes him before, till now. Not only is this not her place to say who I can date and who I cant, but it isnt fair to him. She shouldn't hate someone just because  they date me. He is a great guy and I could understand if he was that much older then me but he is only 3 years older then me at the most and that is because of when my birthday is because 2 months after his is mine and then we are only 2 years apart. And I know there is more I could rant and rave about, but at the moment I think that is all I am doing just ranting and raving....

                              Love ya,
                              Stacy...

Stacy, two or three years means nothing at all.  Your mother must be exceptionally controlling to have such an arbitrary rule that you must have no more than a one-year age difference!  I don't remember whether you are sixteen or seventeen now, but either way it won't be long until you are eighteen and can date whomever you please with impunity.  Of course then controlling parents start with the "as long as your under my roof you'll live under my rules" thing, but they have far less control in any case.  My sweet Silke and I have a rather large age difference, and it matters not at all.  If two people are really soulmates, they finish each other's sentences, understand everything, at any age.  Silke's always felt older than her age, I've always felt younger; if two people fit, they fit.  My own daughter's last relationship, which just ended, was with a guy who is twenty-two, and she is nineteen.  She broke up with him because he was terribly immature.  Men mature more slowly than women, at all ages, so you need a few years on a man for him to be at the same level of a woman.  At my school, St. John's, we routinely hold back boys and start them in Kindergarten a year later than the girls, and this works out really well.  The boys are a year older than the girls, and they are STILL immature!  Is this the boy you told me about, the one you wanted to win back, and we discussed making  a card for him?  The last I heard, things were going well between you.  Nobody, not even your mother, can know what you should do in love.  Only your heart knows.  Follow your heart, always; follow your heart wherever it leads.  Look within your heart, look within your lover's heart; there--and only there--will you find the answer.  Good luck and God bless you.  I wish you all the luck and all the love in the world.

Steve is soo right. Follow your heart, it will lead you down that right path. If i let age and such cloud my judgement, I would have never followed my heart to my Angelita. Age does not matter. What matters is that both of your hearts beat in time with each other.

James

    I agree with what both of you have said and I dont really care what my mom says she has always been like this and that is why I dont care. And Steve I am 17 and he is 19.

                    Love ya,
                    Stacy...