am a bit confused. i have been dating this guy for about a fours years now and i cant tell you am satisfied with the relationship becos he has a temper that cannot be controlled and it pisses me off somtimes but i do love him.
now am seeing somone on line for over three years  and he has being the friend i never had. nothing intimate between us.
now he is preaching to me about how much i really mean to him.
please am confused becos am geting fed up with my boyfriend and he is not doing anything to improve our relationship.
should i leave.
my other friend is willing to do anything thing i want.
what should i do .
i need help.
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Welcome, Perpetua, to our family.  Please make it official and join us, and you will always be most welcome here and have lots of people who will care about you and be supportive of you.  Just go through the little formality of becoming a member, and become one of us; it is no trouble, and costs nothing, but the rewards are amazing and immeasurable.  You find yourself in a dilemma.  You feel you are caught between a known quantity which is negative, and an unknown quantity which is positive.  However, there are more than two choices available to you.  It is not a decision between this one and the other one.  There are many thousands of other possibilities, myriad possibilities.  Step back and gain a greater persective; it doesn't have to be one or the other.   The known quantity which is negative seems a relationship which has run its course and has burned out.  I think it's over, and it's time to move on from that one.  Let it go.  The unknown quantity which is positive is unknown because you have not explored love with this person, only friendship.  Is there chemistry?  You say he is "preaching" to you about the relationship; lovers do not preach!  Neither situation sounds good.  The former is a ruin, and quite possibly dangerous, the latter is not setting your heart aflame.  You have more choices than these!  Let the former go, keep the latter for a friend and see if there is chemistry (although it would have manifested by now, given that it has been three years), but explore beyond the suffocation of these two, toward an entirely new relationship.  New love, new life.  I send you all my love, and I wish you every happiness.  Join us now as a member, and keep in touch with us.