I am figuring out that i am totally wrong all the time. I am always told to be "me", and when I am, I am told I ma not being good enough. THEN when I have issues about HAVING to be perfect in all I do, say and be, I am scrutenized for that as well.
What am I to do here? It seems I cannot be anything, not even me!

I know how you feel and tell me when you find the answer!! Good luck!
       Stacy

Stacy,
I think the answer is this:
Trying to please others is an impossible feat at times. As long as we are being true to ourselves, if others cannot, or will not accept us, it is THEIR loss. I honestly try to do the best I can with all my relationships. I realize I cannot be who each individual person wants me to be, I can only be myself. I guess for teh people I am surrounded by, it is not good for them, but they will have to adjust, because I know I am a good person in my heart. If I was not being good, if I was hurting people, I would change, but I am not. Maybe THEY need to change and not us?

Hope this helped!

Love, Dara

    Sounds good to me!! I like who I am I dont like changing for other people so if they dont like me for me they can either go away or deal with it. lol well I think you kind of answered your own questiong on this one Dara

                                         Love ya,
                                         Stacy...

hey girl i have know you a long time and to me you are perfect... you have always been there for me through anything. you accepted me when others didn't. you and i may not be prefect to others but for me i wouldn't take you any other way... love ya hun : :

Thanks Trish! You are perfect to me too! I would not want you to change a thing. In fact, I tell others to
f-off when they mention how you SHOULD be! You know that! Thanks for ALWAYS being my friend. You and you alone, are the ONLY person who has been a true friend to me! Hell, we even survived LIVING together and are still friends! Now that is an accomplishment...

I love ya ;D

I don't know if this helps (or if it even makes sense). It's a short poem i wrote back in my 20's when i was trying to figure myself out.

Journeys
The First Journey: trying to be what others want us to be.
The Second Journey: trying to be who we want to be.
The Final Journey: becoming the person that we are meant  to be.

Life is discovery. Along the way, many people will try to guide us where they think we should go. The trick is to look into your heart, and know where you need to go. If others don't want to go with us on that journey, then they are the ones who lose.