I totally know what you guys are goin thru. I recently found out that the guy of my dreams was lyin to me about everything and worst of all cheating on me. I always thought of him as a best friend and someone I could count on to care. Right now I feel like there isnt anyone out there that gives a shit, but deep down I know thats crap. I dont have any really close friends anymore, but I do have friends. I kinda feel stuck on the outside of things. Thanks for listening.

It is terrible to have bad things happen to you but worse to find the damage they do to you.

It is the 'Outside-In' Experience. Things around you seem to wound you deeply, the things on which you have put your trust, your hope, your efforts, your love in.

Caught in thought I have found myself saying this:

'I often overextent myself, I look below my feet and find no ground and start falling.'

When we feel good about things and enthusiastic about them we feel easy-going, happy and in love it might be well the feeling of soaring- if something changes and that source of hope and love is taken away you feel deserted, you seem to be falling

There is a grieving time in which the reality is faced until it is actually accepted and acknowledged and worked upon.
It took me around 3 years of getting over my x, of wallowing in my past until I 'chose' to act upon my own life and found the will to find this sort of 'feeling' that i had worn before.
These feeling of 'love' and 'joy' and 'happiness' are found everywhere once you start learning about them.

It is important to regain your enthusiasm for friends, family, life and not be ruled by the condition of feeling miserable. There is little point of regret, remorse, critisism (also towards yourself!!) What's done is done and can't be changed,
We have no influence on our past, nor can we always see what's before us but we have ALL influence on ourselves,
All that counts, and what you think you feel lies within, as you now experience the pain that is planted there-

Now one can only construct on what's there when one finds, sees and works on what's there

This is the Inside-Out Experience which takes far more energy and proactive attitude than it does with the Outside-In Experience, of where you receive the pain and feel miserable.

Please feel free to ask me anything, I hope Ive helped,
Love,
+Franziska

Lindsey,

A man may break his neck, but he shouldn’t let his neck break him.
In other words, why let someone, or something dictate how we act or feel.
Ask yourself, is he worth your emotions and feelings? No. My friend, forget about him and what happened. Learn and move on, he is not worth it. Just think of it as another experience that you will watch out for, as an experience where you gained wisdom and maturity. By responding correctly to these kinds of circumstances we mature. This may not be what you want to hear, but I know you will become stronger because of what you experience.