Hello there, I'm a new member of this forum. I'm posting this new topic because I feel my parents' marriage is strained and failing. My sister and I were dicussing about it in the morning. She's highly aware of their relationships' condition.
Our dad's suffering a mid-life crisis and works as a technician at a resort . His job is lousy and is not going anywhere. The boss, my sister presumes as a racist, to only promote employees that are his ethnicity, and leave my dad behind working hard desperately for it. While our mom, prepetually exhausted and fustrated from her job as a waitress, and towards our father, for being so idle and detached to our brother. Her dream of being a nurse as a future career, is held back by the bills, caretaking, and other factors of domestic activities.
My sister concludes that there could be a possibility that a divorce will come soon. By the clear examples that she brought out, I feared for the worst as well. This seems like a typical description of any families' life, but I ask for opinions, advice, or similar stories that concern about family problems that are: financial, social, racial, and emotional related.

Please respond respectively and sincerely as possible.

All I can say is: what happens, happens. My parents are in the process of getting a divorce right now. Your happiness is not dependent on other people, so reguardless of what happens go find what brings joy to your life.

Thank you Flex, not only did you answered one, but two problems I've accountered. I try depending on my own peers for the same thing as well. Nevertheless, they're all different and their gain of happiness is secluded from mine. If I can't convince my parents or peers to understand my ideals of life, then I must work hard to earn my independence, confidence, and faith alone. For this, is the only thing I can do for the present, and the future that awaits for me.

Let me share with you my story, this might help you. When my parents had me, my mom was 16 and my dad was a Jr. high school drop out. He managed to get a job with Qwest and has been there for eighteen years. It seems to me that my parents never had the chance to develop completely before having children. They were not always responsible with money and have been bankrupt three times. Yes they did not make the best decisions, but are they stupid? No. Did they live out of their means? Yes. Through the money problems came affairs, directly leading to problems in the household. It was alot of stress on my sisters and I as we have always had a very close and loving family. Our lives over the past ten years have been filled with more then our share of bad luck. My sister has recently been torn apart by the national media over a story filled with lies. I have come to the conclusion that in life, you can only give your opinion to the ones that you love. The decisions they make are their decisions to live with. You should worry about yourself and your future, in the end all you will have to depend on is yourself anyway.

Might sound obvious, but how about having "The Talk" with your whole family, and then try to solve these issues together?