A question I don't think has an answer would have to be
How do you know when your IN love
I mean people can tell you all day about what they think love is and how they love their lover and their lives are great and all that jazz. But in the end...Doesn't anyone notice how no matter what no one ends up sticking together? I mean I know people that have lasted their whole lives yes but they are all older people it seems that everyone that got married after the 50's or 60's split up. I know there are some cases where I'm wrong
I'm actuly in this great relationship right now with someone I love alot
So I'm not talking out of anger for love
I guess its out of fear because no matter how long I see people staying together like my parents of what 13 years? maybe more?
I don't even know
I don't think time matters
and Im really scared that there might not be such a thing as love
Because I'm almost positive that when your "IN love" with someone that means your ment to last forever...and yet peoples feelings change so was it all really love in the first place?

Well love is an emotion, its something you feel - so you cant really wrap it up in a logical box. So, I think this is the better idea of what love is

Ah, dear Juliet,
Why art thou yet so fair? shall I believe
That unsubstantial death is amorous,
And that the lean abhorred monster keeps
Thee here in dark to be his paramour?
For fear of that, I still will stay with thee;
And never from this palace of dim night
Depart again: here, here will I remain
With worms that are thy chamber-maids; O, here
Will I set up my everlasting rest,
And shake the yoke of inauspicious stars
From this world-wearied flesh. Eyes, look your last!
Arms, take your last embrace! and, lips, O you
The doors of breath, seal with a righteous kiss
A dateless bargain to engrossing death!
Come, bitter conduct, come, unsavoury guide!
Thou desperate pilot, now at once run on
The dashing rocks thy sea-sick weary bark!
Here's to my love!

Love is, prehaps - like a soft breeze, it is welcomed when it comes and missed when it passes. To say that love is everlasting, this may be so - or it could be that love is but a fleeting breath and one which you must take. Whether it lasts for but a moment or for a thousand years, enjoy it while you can.

If, you should love for only a day, then that will be a mighty day. What of a flower who with the spring blooms and with the winter dies, is it still not beautiful? Love is like the flower, there will times when you love and times when you dont, there is no trying to force it.

I think in this sense, it is even more idealistic than if it were ever lasting. For it is only in a few moments, a few precious moments in time - which we remember and cherish.

Seek, and you shall find.

Love is forever. Even if you fall out of love the moment that you fell in love will always remain the moment you fell in love. No Thing ever lasts forever but Love being an emotion or the spiritual essence which maintains all action in the Universe differentiates the illusions we create in conscious awareness of where we are at.

No matter what we are feeling when we are not in the moment we wander in thoughts about the future based on our feelings and experiences of the past. There is no total immersion in the moment when the moment is lost to the wandering mind as it travels back and forth into the non existent past and future there are only illusions creating fear and doubt.
So if you are not fully present you cannot be fully in love or fully in any experience.

Sometimes if you are lucky and you don't drift into other thoughts you will experience what it is like to have that peak experience as Abraham Maslow would give so much attention to.
The act of making love has been linked to the idea of being the closest thing to spiritual union with God. With all thoughts stilled and being totally present in the act of love making it was thought that one could achieve Spiritual Union with God thru this simple act.

Prior to the Birth of Jesus there were religious priests who with the aid of their nuns would render a service to a man who would seek spiritual union with God. Basically they were running a prostitution business but they were serious about the spirituality of the act. The nuns didn't think of themselves as hookers but as in service to God and man.

We have a way of twisting things to achieve our best guess at what reality is.
Love has been described by poets, spiritualists and angry broken hearted drunk country and western singers.
You want someone to tell you what you are feeling and why? You will get plenty of opinions but in the analysis you're going to come back to a system of self referral. Learning to find your own heart and the ability to know yourself in the moment is the closest you will come to being in your heart.
There any feeling can be appreciated in its fullness. Love, anger, we choose to feel what we want to feel about something or someone, why doubt if you made the choice to feel the emotion and if you are feeling it? The only reason you would is if you lose your objectivity of yourself and are controlled and manipulated by your emotions losing who you are in the illusion that you have become your emotions.

I actually wondered about a similar topic a while ago.

What is love?

Is it just a biological thing, a chemical reaction meant to become a catalyst for mating and the successful procreation of the species?
Or is it a social thing, one that evolved in order to facilitate people to bond into groups or "families" to increase their chances of survival?

Or is it something else? Something deeper? Something more... spiritual?
Does such a thing as a "soul mate" exist? Is it possible to spend an infinitely long time with someone and yet not fall out of love with them?

That, I wonder.

Thats for you to decide.

Hmm...

I have decided.