Hi! I have a question for you: How would you like your funeral to be?
I just had a death in my ‘immediate friends’ family. And everybody here at work is totally bummed-out. This person was important in the community and his funeral is going to be filled with lots and lots of sad, long faces. This just made me realize, that, maybe that’s not how I would like my funeral to be. So I decided that I’m going to make a list of the things that I want there to be at my funeral (and not to be). And I will pass it on while I’m alive, so that my wish may be realized. But before I give that list, what about you? How would you like your funeral to be?
Although I know that all my wishes may not be realized (I would like to be buried in a New Orleans cemetery, for instance) some may be:
I would like it if there were no tears at my funeral, but lots of laughter. I want happiness and not sadness at my funeral. I would like to be celebrated in death for whom I was alive to/by those at my funeral. I would like them to be happy for me, for wherever it may be that I will be then, after dead (it doesn’t matter if it’s really nowhere, since they wouldn’t know). I would like it if there be a party after my funeral, in my name. And, by all means, I want a happy Billy Holliday song to be played during my funeral:” Speak Love”, maybe?
What about you? Let me know!!!

best funeral is on the dissecting table. those student medics need all the practice they can get.

Some dog food is made of whale meat, so if I were to be made into dog food it might save part of a whale.

As for a funeral, I suppose I would ask that some music I like be played, maybe some Jim Morrison from his Morrison Hotel album. Maybe some Hendrix from Axis Bold as Love. Lots of free food etc. for everyone, of course.

I won´t realize what is going on at my funeral, but I would like all my friends and my family to have a great party, wearing the clothes they usually do. Playing the music they think it matches to me ( some will most probably choose classical music some rather woodstock ...).
My husband died two months ago, he didn´t leave any instructions how to bury him, I did it the way I was thinking it matched to his life and I could agree too.
Funerals are for the living ones, they need to express the last goodbye, their grief, therefore they should have the final decision. Of course I would have preferred to have instructions, but he wouldn´t give it to me, and I had to find my way.


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A smile, a laughter remembering good times, ...maybe we loose so many things

This is sad news Ann, right on Christmas time too!!

The 'space' you show in your post is very significant.

Oodles of strength from me and Chris to yourself and Family !!!!

A kind of emptiness, ...sure ...
but friends caring for me ..
even in the toughest times!
Thanks so much to all of them,
they joined me through the the worst times of my life.
Thank you for your sympathy and your encouragement.
My motherlanguage is german, (austrian, actually a kind of a difference) I can´t always get the right expressions, sorry!

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Sympathy and strength to you Ann. German, Austrian, British, American, whatever .... we can all understand loss and appreciate your feelings.

Thank you for your kind words
I am so lucky! I experience so much friendship during that hard times. A "thank you" to my friends!

ann